Saturday, August 29, 2015

Skagway Adventures

Our first port of call on the cruise was Skagway, Alaska. The town is tiny, even by Alaska standards, with about 860 people living there. We booked an excursion to go on the White Pass railway, taking us on a beautiful train ride up the mountains into B.C. It was stunning, but Sojo didn't really have any thoughts about it at all.


She slept the entire train ride, as per usual with trains and boats and her. The terrain was this sparsely beautiful tundra, and the town of Skagway was just what I pictured an Alaskan town to be. My love for Alaskan wilderness was growing by the second. 



We were so fortunate to have sunny days during our entire trip, and Skagway was no exception. 





Friday, August 28, 2015

Disney Cruise to Alaska

Our big adventure this summer was a cruise to Alaska with most of Dale's family. We chose Disney as it gave us tons of fun for the kids, and the adults got to soak in the absolute beauty that is Alaska. It was such an amazing trip for all of us.

One of the many highlights was having the kids dress up for dinner. Sojo wanted a costume from Maleficent, so we grabbed one at a party store right before we left. She looked adorable, and it's been so long since she has worn a dress that she forgot how hard it is to move in one.



We were spoiled rotten on the cruise with delicious meals and lovely servers who made everything feel extra special. Sojo discovered steak on this trip, and her very favorite was filet mignon! Seriously, how do you get back to real life after a week of that? Another new thing was Shirley Temples with her cousins. Steak and Shirley Temples were on the menu just about every night. 


We grown-ups ate like royalty as well, but it was hard to get us off our balcony with all that great scenery. Truly spectacular sights. 




Monday, July 27, 2015

Dude Ranch and Ten Years

We celebrated our ten-year anniversary this past week, and my brother hooked us up with a night at a fabulous dude ranch here in Tucson. It was absolutely stunning and nestled right into the mountains. The casita itself was exactly what Dale and I would love to live in--small but not too small and with tons of Mexican touches to it.



Our M.O. is that we rarely give each other gifts, and we are both totally fine with that. Actually, it makes life easier in general, and if we find something cool during the year for each other, we buy it at the moment. However, I was walking around the casita and noticed a sign by the window about how to draw the curtains. I then noticed what looked like another sign on a ledge, and I went over to see it. Then, I saw Chama Linda, which is what Dale calls me (means pretty friend in Spanish, and we've used it for years--I call him Chamo Lindo). What on Earth!? It was our vows in a frame, which was incredibly sweet as we made three promises to each other ten years ago. Looking around, I saw tons of frames all over the room (sneaky guy put them up while I was in the shower), and our vows were translated into every language from all the countries we have lived in. He enlisted help from friends all over, and it was the best gift I could ask for. Those three promises were written slightly on the fly the morning of our wedding, but we meant them and still live those vows today. I couldn't ask for anything more.


I promise to be your true companion wherever our journeys take us.
I promise to continue supporting your growth as an individual and to trust in this leap of faith.
Above all else, I promise to be your friend and, as such, to treat you with respect, kindness and love. 

Sunday, July 26, 2015

Sojo and Shadow

Sojo just came to me and said that I needed to come out and take a photo of her. That type of request is not typical, so I knew it had to do with her new best friend, Shadow.


Even with all the health improvements with Sojo, the allergies to dogs and cats remains an issue. And this kid really wants a dog in the worst way. We have experimented with hypoallergenic dogs, and, most unfortunately, they also cause a reaction for her. However, we saw this Zoomer robot dog at Target the other day, and Sojo fell in love with the possibility of having a dog that acted like a dog but isn't real. She charged him up and spent most of the day playing with him. He responds to 60 voice commands (her favorites so far are "play with me" and "I love you"), and he is downright adorable. She is totally in love. For this reason, she called me out to take a photo of him watching TV with her. 

We are just curious about the towel under him. Worried about an accident? For us, that is the best part of having a dog like this--all the fun without the early morning walks and poop pickup. 

Saturday, July 04, 2015

Managing Eczema, 8 years later

When we adopted Sojo eight years ago, we were given this beautiful baby girl.

And a tube of steroid.

We were told she had some eczema on the back of her neck. Little did we know that there was so much more lurking. We put socks on her hands the very first night together, and she did not sleep without socks on her hands until she was almost six years old. This picture is of Sojo when she was with us about a week, and the eczema was already getting way out of control.


The rashes and reactions worsened over the years, and we were at a loss of how to help her. While in the throes of some dark, dark times with eczema itching, pain from so many open sores and no sleep for anyone, I spent hours and hours scanning the internet for solutions. We tried everything anyone suggested to alleviate her itching--bag balm for cow teats, Cetaphil, coconut oil, everything. At one point, we went down the homeopathic route, and the concoction the doctor gave us caused huge clumps of Sojo's skin to fall off. Literally, when she got up from the couch during that period, there would be hunks of skin left. The doctor said she had only seen that before in children living in the slums of Calcutta. Unfortunately, all that skin falling off led to some horrible bacterial infections, so we went back to steroids. In a nutshell, her life (and our lives--it is incredibly hard to watch your kid suffer so much) was pretty challenging for about the first five years of her life.


Yet, here we are, 3 years into a fairly healthy, just-about-eczema-free life with Sojo, and I thought I would share some of the ways that we help her stay healthy, just in case there is a mama like me out there scouring the web for some peace. Oh, and my husband and I have actually slept through the night for more than 3 years now, something we simply thought would never happen. We still marvel at that. I also marvel that when I grab my daughter's hand or touch her arm, the skin is soft and not like that of a crocodile.

Here is what we have discovered through many years of trial and error:

FOOD

1. I now believe that the bulk of the eczema comes from food reactions, and our pediatric allergist years ago swore that all eczema is food-related, but we resisted against that for years. And, although Sojo has been allergy tested like crazy, some foods that should be okay cause a reaction. My craziest example is marshmallows. There is absolutely no ingredient in the random US brands of marshmallows that should cause any skin reaction, yet every time she eats one, she has an eczema outbreak for more than a week. Obviously, we never eat them as that is not fun for her. Strangely enough, there is one Asian brand at our store that has marshmallows that don't cause a reaction, so those are the ones we eat. Trial and error seems to be a biggie for foods and eczema. Plus, making your own marshmallows is kind of a pain.

This has happened to us with various foods. Making pesto with that artificial Parmesan cheese is fine, but there is an instant reaction to real parmesan cheese. McDonald's vanilla ice cream cone works fine, but Dairy Queen's causes an instant reaction.

CLIMATE

2. Climate helps. When we lived in Bangkok, Sojo was downright miserable as the humidity and sweating made the eczema worse. Plus, she had to wear long sleeves and long pants due to scratching, so she was not very comfortable. Moving to the dry, dry desert of Saudi was nothing short of miraculous, and we saw an almost instant, positive change. That being said, we have friends here whose son struggles in the dry and does better in humidity. It's worth a try to see if a vacation to a different climate causes a change.

ALLERGY TESTING

3. Allergy testing doesn't really seem to mean much. Sojo has been tested different ways, and although the tests show that she has only a tiny allergy to soy, she tends to react to it. She isn't allergic to eggs, and she can eat them baked in something, but when she eats a scrambled egg, she has a reaction. Again, because of the trial and error, we eliminate certain brands and certain foods. Even with ice cream--we'll try a brand to see if it causes a reaction. Some do, some don't. I don't know the difference, but we stick with what we know works. And then we panic when that brand is out in our tiny town.

FOOD OVER TIME

4. Sometimes, we let her try a new food to see if there is a reaction, and it seems fine. However, she tends to get way too excited about a new food and eats tons of it, which sometimes causes a reaction. We have adjusted in letting her have certain things every now and then instead of on a regular basis as we find that eczema occurs more when there is a bit of a build-up of something in her system.

EMBRACING STEROID CREAM

4. Using steroid to battle the reactions does help. Maybe it's because we are living overseas, but the doctors here in Saudi and in Thailand always tell us how Americans freak out about steroid use more than they need to. When we need it, we use it, and not just a dab like I used to because it made me worried. When there is a reaction, we need to get it right away so it doesn't go out of control.

LOTIONS

5. I swear we've tried them all, and, like I said before, we never minded if people suggested something new to us. Eczema is one of those things that everyone seems to know someone who had success with something. Our big success has been Aquaphor lotion, and we lubed her up every single night for years. She is now older, and she hates how sticky it is and really doesn't like it on her, so we have found something new that is light and seems to work nicely: Neosporin eczema lotion. Pretty happy with that so far.

SINGULAIR

6. Sojo also has asthma, and just this year, we put her on a daily asthma/allergy pill. We think this is also working well for her. She would often get stuffed up right as she went to bed, and this has taken care of that.

There you have it! I sincerely hope this helps someone out there with some strategies. Look at this girl now--wearing shorts, something we never thought could happen without tearing up her legs with itching. She's that healthy!




Friday, July 03, 2015

Iftar



We are in the midst of Ramadan here in Saudi, a time where everything moves at a slower pace, and it is against the law to even eat or drink in public. As a non-Muslim, we go about our days almost the same, but I think frequently of the many imported workers who are in the 117 degree heat with no food or water all day. It is definitely humbling.

Last night, our dear, dear Malaysian friends invited a bunch of us to an Iftar meal--our first official Iftar (breaking of the fast) meal in our time here. Dale and I decided to go all-in and fast yesterday. While we didn't officially do the 3:00 breakfast before the sun comes up, we ate our own normal breakfast and fasted from food for the rest of the day. Seems simple enough.

Let me just say that deprivation is not something I do well with. I was a wee bit worried.

Whenever I got hungry yesterday, I reminded myself about one of the reasons people fast during Ramadan--to remind themselves that there are many people in this world that go hungry each and every day. That knowledge made fasting easier.

Right at 6:38 p.m, the evening prayer time, everyone ate a date and had a glass of water, which is the way to end the fast each night. Then, we ate ourselves silly with so much food. The custom is dessert first (woo hoo!), then the main course, then dessert again. Needless to say, we were stuffed.

These two beauties always make me smile. They adore each other, and Sojo wore her Malaysian outfit to the Iftar as it is the only somewhat fancy thing she owns. It is actually pajamas in Malaysia, but she wore it as a dress, so her friend went and put on her pajamas as well.


Nights like last night are an incredible gift. 

Friday, June 26, 2015

The Day Santa Died

Our 8 year anniversary of being a family also coincided with Sojo finding out that Santa wasn't real, so we will always remember 'the day Santa died.' A middle schooler had told Sojo that the tooth fairy was not real, and so she asked us at bedtime if this was true. Dale and I both knew we were most likely on our last year of belief with Sojo, and we decided to tell her the truth because she had flat-out asked. The tooth fairy being us was a surprise, but not a huge deal. However, of course, that led to the "What about Santa? Is he real?" question.



So, we told her.
And her heart broke.
And so did ours.

Even thought it was almost a month ago that we told her, every now and then, she'll just get this dejected look on her face and say, "There's no Santa." This is a kid who lives in the magic of life, and so this was a doozy for her.

Just to make it up to her, I might need to pick up this ridiculous, 3 foot long gummy worm she saw online and was begging me to buy for her. At first, I said absolutely no way (it is truly so gross!), but it might make a perfect Santa gift this year.